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Comment on Does ‘Fitspiration’ Motivate or Encourage Self Hate? by Lahle Wolfe

Lahle Wolfe — Fri, 18 May 2012 05:15:25 +0000

“Why is it a crime to suggest (through images, words, whatever) that only a few people are ever going to represent the ideal?”

The ideal? Who is the media to dictate ideals of anything? God made people in all sizes, shapes, and colors. There is no ideal; no one size fits all.

Tell someone in a wheelchair to get off their lazy ass if they want to look like you. Or is your advice not so “ideal” for everyone?

Comment on What Is Spirituality? by Michelle Cantrell

Michelle Cantrell — Sun, 13 May 2012 19:21:21 +0000

Thank you dear friend!

Comment on What Is Spirituality? by Michelle Cantrell

Michelle Cantrell — Sun, 13 May 2012 19:21:08 +0000

I’m so glad you could relate. Interestingly, I was at a class at my church yesterday for people interested in becoming members, where we learned the history of UUC, talked about our religious backgrounds, and shared what we hoped to get out of the UU church, and one of the other participants identifies herself as a Pagan. One of the things I love about UUC is you don’t have to choose your identity — you can just make UU part of it, without having to give up other parts.

Comment on What Is Spirituality? by Michelle Market

Michelle Market — Sun, 13 May 2012 12:16:54 +0000

Another beautiful piece! What a great reminder of just taking a moment. May you continue to have many moments through your life!

Comment on What Is Spirituality? by Edie

Edie — Sun, 13 May 2012 05:28:46 +0000

I found this to be a very thoughtful, and thought-provoking, article. I’ve been Pagan for the past 28 years, and I feel like my life really lacks spirituality. I’ve been working through these issues with a friend, also a Pagan. I’ve been through a lot on my Pagan path. At the beginning it was really good, especially working with my first coven, and I felt like I found home. Practicing with others is important to me, and finding other Pagans with whom I am comfortable and I can trust has been almost impossible. Like you, I find the sacred in nature and music, but it’s kind of hard to codify that feeling into ritual or daily practice. I’m very confused about spirituality these days. Your article was good for letting me know I’m not alone, though, and I thank you for that.

Comment on What’s Your “Thing”? by Michelle Cantrell

Michelle Cantrell — Thu, 03 May 2012 23:27:48 +0000

I imagine this happens to a lot of people. Sometimes our thing is right in front of us and we don’t see it. The other side though is that for so many people, they just feel like they’re supposed to fit in the role of mother/parenthood neatly like a puzzle piece fitting perfectly together, and when it doesn’t fit, we just sit around feeling bad about it, keeping our dissatisfaction to ourselves for fear of being judged.

For the record, I think you always have been and always will be an excellent mother and are definitely a role model for me in your dedication as a mom.

Comment on What’s Your “Thing”? by Michelle Cantrell

Michelle Cantrell — Thu, 03 May 2012 23:25:16 +0000

I completely agree and should have discussed that one’s “thing” changes and evolves or completely turns into something else over time. I do love that book by Sher. Definitely applies to me! The main idea is to find something that gets you excited about life and getting up each day. I know a lot of women who don’t have that in their life and are longing for something to give them more meaning.

Comment on What’s Your “Thing”? by Lahle Wolfe

Lahle Wolfe — Thu, 03 May 2012 14:00:21 +0000

I think many women go through the same process you did — moving in a direction with a good heart and intentions only to discover there is no passion.

My kids are my thing, I knew that before I even had them! But in search of other “my things” (corporate career, starting a nonprofit to help others, followed by a thriving marketing business) I lost sight of that for a while. Now that I am able to spend time doing things with them again I find pure joy has returned to my life.

I enjoyed doing all those other things, but the fact that I kept looking for change and something newer, bigger, better, should have been an early clue.

At the end of the day what really gets my juices going more than anything else is just enjoying the time with my wonderful family. Everything else in my life might be fun, but my children and husband, being a mother and wife, pull all the other things into perspective for me.

Thank you for putting the search process we all go through, into perspective. Although I actually came full circle in my own “my thing” it took me ten years to do so. During that time of distraction, they grew up; one has even moved out. Well, there is the joyful hope of grand babies someday, too…..

Comment on What’s Your “Thing”? by Andrea Owen

Andrea Owen — Thu, 03 May 2012 13:05:45 +0000

Great post, Michelle and an important topic. I talk to women all the time that struggle with this and they compare themselves to me, saying, “Well, you’ve found *your* thing.” And I say, “Maybe, maybe not.”
I don’t believe we all have ONE thing we were mean to do. As Barbara Sher coined the term “Scanner”, many of us have so many passions and jump from one thing to another, it’s just who we are. I have gone to school for fashion merchandising, worked as a clothing buyer, went back to school for exercise physiology, worked in that field, and then found life coaching which is what I’m doing now and loving it. My family and friends for YEARS have chuckled and rolled their eyes at most of my endeavors.
My point is that I had to let go of the notion that I had “a thing” that I had to be monogamous to. Or that by finding it I had reached some destination. I’m pretty sure I have found a big part of my life purpose, but I’m okay with the fact that it might change.
Our culture puts so much pressure on this, not to mention we need to find it by our senior year of high school! I tell women just to find their thing this year. Is it writing? Great. Is it Zumba? Fantastic. No matter what, your “thing” doesn’t define you.

Comment on A Morning With Glennon Doyle Melton of Momastery by What’s Your “Thing” : VenusVision

What’s Your “Thing” : VenusVision — Wed, 02 May 2012 14:36:59 +0000

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