Here is an excerpt from one of the comments:

“Why is it a crime to suggest (through images, words, whatever) that only a few people are ever going to represent the ideal? That’s not demeaning, it’s truth. If it hurts your little feelings, use that to motivate you to go after your personal best, not cry over cultural obsession or objectification and use that as an excuse to say how it makes you feel so demeaned. If you want something, you have to give up the excuses and blaming anyone other than yourself, and go for it. Effort = results. Actions = priorities. So showing a tight body with the message “get off your lazy ass if you want to look like this” is entirely appropriate to me.”

I think good physical health is an important part of good emotional health. I believe in taking care of and respecting our bodies, and I think there are a variety of ways to do that. But when the motivation to do so is extrinsic, as in when were are doing it to live up to some ideal determined by someone else — and promoted in many “fitspiration” or “thinspiration” pictures and quotes, it can lead to unhealthy consequences that at best bring an end to the commitment to achieve said ideals, and at worst can lead to unhealthy body and food obsessions, and deadly eating disorders, which are on the rise across genders, ethnic, and age groups.

The waistlines in our country have been growing for several decades. We’ve all heard the statistics — two thirds of Americans are overweight or obese. During the same time period, the diet and fitness industries have grown into multi-billion dollar money making factories. They provide plenty — let me repeat — plenty of thinspiration, fitspiration, and any other kind of inspiration that will make you want to spend money on their products and services because they know we all will ignore their dirty little secret: DIETS DON’T WORK. No matter how many posters and quotes and fitness magazines we look at, the reality is, 95 percent of us won’t be successful at losing weight for an extended period of time. If thinspiration and fitspiration really worked, surely there would be more than a 5 percent success rate among those who claim to be motivated by it.

It’s easy to call it a cop out to blame our culture for feeling demeaned, but the reality is, Madison Avenue has every intention of making you feel that way. After all, if you were happy with the way you were, what motivation would you have to buy the products that are supposed to make you better? Trust me, they wouldn’t spend the kazillions of dollars that they do if they weren’t absolutely sure that you would fall for their slight of hand tricks. They sell us a bill of goods, that if we look the way they tell us to look, we’ll be happy. Be thin and you’ll get the gorgeous guy, the big bank account, the McMansion, the convertible. Have six pack abs and your doctor will say hooray, forgetting to ask how many cigarettes you smoke each day and how much wine you drink at night to numb the self hate that comes from a life of always trying to please other people and live up to their standards, rather than exploring your genuine self. That’s not to say that everyone with six-pack abs or “tank-top ready” triceps is unhappy with who they are. My point is that if the reason for challenging and strengthening their body comes from external sources of motivation, ultimately the euphoria achieved from reaching goals (if that euphoria is actually ever achieved) will most likely be fleeting as soon as another standard arises for them to meet, compelling them back into a cycle of body dissatisfaction.

Again, I want to point out that I think good physical health is an important goal for anyone. I think most people could benefit from turning off their computers and/or TVs and moving for 30-60 minutes a day, and not just because the latest health reports say it’s good for our hearts, but because like rats in a cage, we go a little crazy if we don’t get to move our bodies, even if it’s in a “hamster wheel”. But I firmly believe that shaming people by convincing them that there is one ideal of health and beauty, as fitspiration/inspiration so often does not only is ineffective in providing long term motivation, but it also to perpetuates the idea that we are only as good as our bodies look. Someone may look at a picture of a beautiful body and suddenly feel compelled to go spend an hour on the eliptical, but the motivation has nothing to do with achieving a higher level of cardiovascular health and everything to do with molding their shameful body into something worth looking at. Some may argue that if the end result is the same — a healthier body — than what difference does it make? Well, if you are happy to achieve the short term “success” of a fit body while sacrificing the longer benefits that come from an intrinsically motivated health and fitness routine, I guess it’s not really a problem. But if you hope to achieve a balance in emotional and physical health, it might be useful to begin by ending the body shaming that comes from the media and so called “fitspiration.”

I LOVE my body. I am proud of my body. I don’t let my weight determine my value or my assessment of my health — all in spite of the fact that it is in no way shape or form any sort of ideal, at least by outward appearances. When I go to my doctors now, I don’t even let them weigh me anymore because I don’t want a number on the scale to be how my health is judged by them or by me. I have told them they can talk to me all they want about my blood pressure, cholesterol, blood sugar levels, and cardiovascular health, but so far, every year at my physical, all of those numbers indicate I’m in excellent health which is contrary to what they would think if they simply looked at my weight. Despite all of this, I still have to actively reject the constant messages that tell me I should be thinner if I am to be seen by our world as beautiful and/or healthy. And the key word there is ‘active’.

We live in a culture where we are constantly told that our body parts represent our value and place in our society, and some people don’t have a problem with that fact. I certainly can’t tell someone else what they should or shouldn’t be motivated by. I can simply state the facts and make choices for myself, and hopefully inspire people who wish to to achieve a healthy balance between mind and body. I will also continue to encourage people to think critically about the media they consume as well as continue to voice my opinions about the messages I see as damaging to the mind, body, and spirit.

As Jenni Schaefer said in her recent post Body Image: I Love How I Look in a World That Doesn’t, “Make a choice today to love your body. It will love you back.”

You can use the principle of intention with respect to planning meals and snacks or even generally applied to your food relationship. Weekly intentions might take the form of incorporating healthy snacks, packing your lunch to work, and/or having meals planned throughout the week. The reality is that those who are most successful are the ones who realize they are worth taking those extra ten minutes per day to pack their lunch or plan their meals. I recently had a client measure the time it took to create a healthy salad to pack in her lunch bag. To her surprise, creating and packing this salad took only three minutes. So sometimes we perceive that it will take longer than it actually will. Why not give yourself the challenge? I am sure you can find three extra minutes to pack your lunch.

Reflection Questions

1) Identify the sabotaging thoughts that get in the way of having a healthy food relationship (i.e., “I don’t have the time”, “It is too expensive”, “I am too tired”, “I’ll start next week”, “Next month, next year”).

2) Identify the supportive statements that you tell yourself about cultivating a healthy food relationship (i.e., one meal at a time, I am worth the time and investment, progress not perfection). In what ways are you already incorporating mindfulness in your food relationship?

Action Steps

How might you incorporate the act of intention with your food relationship? What will you commit to do over the next month? Make your act of intention focus on only one thing. Some ideas may include: starting your day with a healthy breakfast; practicing mindful eating at a minimum of one meal or snack per day; committing to having a regular day to grocery shop and meal plan. Some find it helpful to break down shopping and meal planning into two planning sessions and two shopping sessions per week. For example, on Sunday plan meals and snacks through Wednesday, and then again on Wednesday plan for Thursday through Saturday. Recognize that you are worth the investment of time. When you are able to plan and have healthy food options readily available you set yourself up for success.

Michelle Market, LPC is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Wellness Coach with more than 10 years of experience in Wellness and Women’s issues. She is dedicated to helping females feel better physically and emotionally. She has a private practice in Herndon, Virginia and works with Adults. Michelle provides counseling, coaching and workshops. She specializes in self-esteem and healthy food relationships. Her mission is to create and maintain positive change in the lives of her clients. She believes that beauty comes from the inside out. For more information visit her website www.michellemarket.com.

New Media Analysis Shows Room to Improve When Communicating About Weight and Health

WASHINGTON, D.C., May 9, 2011 – Unrealistic and uninformed media portrayals of weight not only can negatively influence individual behavior, but can impact how policymakers approach issues of weight and health. The result, according to experts from the Strategies to Overcome and Prevent (STOP) Obesity Alliance and the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA), is a continued belief that these issues are largely a matter of personal responsibility and that little can or should be done in policy to address them.

Susan Dentzer, editor of Health Affairs, moderated a panel convened today on Capitol Hill to discuss the media’s role in shaping the policy environment surrounding weight and health. Panelists discussed whether policymakers believe that weight is an individual issue or a public health problem and whether media plays a role in driving who is responsible and who should take action.

“In a time of ongoing budget tightening and confusion regarding health care coverage, we must find a way to create policies that address obesity and eating disorders, without letting our own biases get in the way,” said Christine Ferguson, J.D., Director of the STOP Obesity Alliance. “There is no evidence that stigmatizing weight-related health issues prevents or treats these problems — in fact, the opposite appears to be true. It is an important opportunity for members of both the obesity and eating disorders communities to advocate for a focus on health rather than weight as a measure of well-being.”

The groups released a new analysis of media coverage that showed room to improve the reporting on weight and health, based on a series of media guidelines released by the STOP Obesity Alliance and NEDA last year.

The guidelines offer simple message themes to include when addressing weight and focus on the concept that weight status and the importance of maintaining a healthy weight is not about appearance, but about health. A comparison of coverage from sample outlets over the last year however — looking at media that target a “Beltway” audience and those that are more consumer oriented — found that 75 percent of articles initially reviewed were dismissed from the analysis because they lacked substantive content. While many consumer articles focused on weight-loss tips, characterized as “fighting flab”, “shrinking your middle” or “looking leaner naked”, most failed to mention the health implications.

“Our conversation today and the new media analysis echo the ongoing need for us to address the societal pressures and the unrealistic images that we know can be contributing factors among people who develop eating disorders, depression and other esteem issues,” said Lynn Grefe, President and CEO of NEDA. “It is why we have come together to address these issues. These pressures affect all of us.”

The media analysis also found that Beltway media publications were three times as likely to consider external factors beyond will power as playing a role in, and being affected by, weight issues. Examples of this were a higher rate of coverage in Beltway outlets that reported on how weight issues can impact the economy and the workplace.

The roundtable discussion, “Pounds and Policy: Effectively Communicating About Weight and Health” also included experts from a cross-section of fields including media, communications, eating disorders and obesity:

• Jean Kilbourne, EdD, media critic, author and expert on advertising and women
• Sarah Kliff, health reporter POLITICO
• Dianne Neumark-Sztainer, PhD, MPH, RD, Professor, School of Public Health, University of Minnesota
• Rebecca Puhl, PhD, Director of Research, Rudd Center for Food Policy & Obesity at Yale University
• Chevese Turner, Founder and Chief Executive Officer, Binge Eating Disorders Association

The STOP Obesity Alliance and NEDA will continue work and outreach to the media and policymakers regarding the joint guidelines.

The National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA), headquartered in Seattle, Wash., is the leading U.S. non-profit organization supporting individuals and families affected by eating disorders. NEDA serves as a catalyst for prevention, cures and access to quality care. Each year, NEDA helps millions of people across the country find information and appropriate treatment resources through its toll-free, live helpline, its many outreach programs and website. NEDA advocates for advancements in the field and envisions a world without eating disorders. For more information, visit www.NationalEatingDisorders.org.

The Strategies to Overcome and Prevent (STOP) Obesity Alliance is a collaboration of consumer, provider, government, labor, business, health insurers and quality-of-care organizations united to drive innovative and practical strategies that combat obesity. The STOP Obesity Alliance receives funding from founding sponsor, sanofi-aventis U.S. LLC, and supporting sponsors, Allergan, Inc. and Amylin Pharmaceuticals, Inc. For more information, visit www.stopobesityalliance.org.

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by Nicole Ohebshalom

Life is full of choices that seem to have only black and white solutions.  Should you take a risk or observe? Does your child need more freedom or control?  Stay quiet or fight back?  Help someone or create a boundary? We are faced with dilemmas throughout the day.  We believe that we must choose one over the other to create a balance in ourselves and in our life, but instead we create tensions that lead to breakdowns.

In ancient tradition teachings, the tensions in life are not only a natural part of life, they are life.  The dynamic opposition is what gives birth to and sustains the changing and evolving creative essentials of our world.  We clearly see this interaction by the T’ai Chi’s swirling black-and-white circle. It shows us that without one part of the pair, the other cannot exist.  Both sides of the picture complete the circle of wholeness.  Without the dynamic interplay between these powerful pairs, there is only stagnation and narrow thinking.   One great lesson I have learned in life is we cannot ignore or chase away the tension of opposites, because its how the universe operates.  Our job is to learn how to flow with life and listen to our inner-pleasure balance compass.

Many of my clients find that when they don’t listen to their body and embrace both sides of the situation they create breakdowns instead of breakthroughs.  When we become out of balance, we feel lopsided, especially in our body.  The body sends us messages to help us get back into balance.  Recently, I had a client craving late night cookie dough ice cream.   I’m sure many have been there — I have!  What was occurring for my client was pressure in receiving a promotion especially in this economy.  The ice cream felt like a big old bear hug, a way she had learned to receive love, relax, and smooth over her feelings.  Now, she takes a bubble bath with a good book, she has fun playful tools at work, and can listen more to what her body wants to eat. I’m so excited for her; she is rocking her new promotion!  And she still eats her ice cream now and then, but with so much more pleasure!

When you learn to honor yourself then you are respecting, appreciating, and giving birth to your best self so you can give creatively and abundantly in ways that honor others.  At its core, using a pleasure balance compass gives us the inner-guidance in receiving and giving during our life challenges.

Ready to gain more understanding of this balance system?  Many of us believe that our duty is to give, give, give, which prevents us from living joyfully and giving fully.  For example, the earth must receive enough nutrients, sunshine, and water before it can produce a beautiful harvest.  Your body and mind need their own nutrition and self-love to support one another, connect with your soul, and create a beautiful life for you.

Finding the balance in life begins with these few questions: Do you love yourself enough to honor your body’s needs? Do you give yourself the nourishment, rest, and activity you deserve?  If you can give all this to yourself, as well as getting out of your mind and into your body then your body will make sure you find your balance.  Your body always has your back! You see this when you trust and learn to receive from her.  If you want to get in touch with your inner potential, you must also care for your body and listen to her wisdom.  Rabbi Nachman said, “Strengthen your body before you strengthen your soul.”

From society we have learned to push ourselves beyond our limits, we are giving on an empty tank when we should be receiving.  Honoring yourselves and connecting to your pleasure balance compass is going to call for adding into your life more playful activities.  It’s about asking yourself what you need, right now, in order for you to regain balance.  A conscious effort is needed to come back into balance by learning more of yourself and asking yourself: What do I need at this moment to create happiness?  Your happiness is your responsibility.

I asked this question to myself early today.  I was writing on the computer and I felt my body slumping and becoming tight.  In response my thoughts became narrow and nothing flowed.  To balance myself out I put the music on, let go of my mind and got into my body and just danced. It was so awesome! I feel free!  After 5 minutes, I was so into my body and happy that I could connect more to myself, the writing slowed smoothly, and my body was relaxed.  For myself, I know moving my body is key and a method to honor myself.  This doesn’t sound difficult, but it takes practice.  The change begins with watching yourself, getting to know yourself, and then translating that knowledge into action that is distinct to your needs.

Ask yourself throughout the day: Do you sacrifice the needs of your body because you are giving so much of yourself?  Do you ignore the warning signs that are trying to get you back into balance?  Do you think of your body as something you love and completely surrender to?

Nicole Ohebshalom is the owner of Radiant Living Wellness which offers programs to address weight and health concerns, increase energy levels, or simply to help clients eat better. A firm believer in the power of balance, Nicole is also a Kundalini Yoga Instructor. To learn more about Nicole and her services, visit Radiant Living Wellness.

This is what happens when we have ridden the roller coaster of diet mania. Dependent on the latest news of what we should and shouldn’t eat in the name of losing weight, so many of us no longer know how to listen to our bodies. Going back and forth between restricting and binging, it’s like our body’s signals have gone hay wire, and we need nothing short of a “re-booting” to set things straight again. The problem is, how do we re-boot? In other words, how do we regain that ability — one that most of us probably had at some point in our lives, maybe as long ago as when we were kids — to listen to our bodies and eat intuitively? It probably won’t surprise you when I say the answer is in a book.

Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works was written by two Registered Dietitians, Evelyn Tribole, and Elyse Resch, and is a highly accessible, well-written book outlining the process for getting in touch with your body and learning what we knew as children — how to eat intuitively. Most of us once had the ability to listen to our body’s signals, eating when we’re hungry, and stopping when we’ve had enough. We seem to lose that ability, whether its through the introduction of food as a coping mechanism, comforting us when we’re hurt, sad, bored, lonely, stressed, angry, etc., or through the the black and white view of food that we come to have through the pressures of society to be thin, or, most likely, both.

Intuitive Eating outlines a process for regaining the ability to listen to our bodies and comfortably trust ourselves with food, as well as learning move for the sake of feeling good — not burning off last night’s desert. Though you may have been riding the diet roller coaster for so long that you believe it is actually impossible for you to ever learn to intuitively eat, I would suggest that the principles proposed by Tribole and Resch go to the core of the dieter’s mentality, and bit by bit break down the reasons why diets inevitably don’t and won’t work.

After going through why your diets continue to fail you, the book describes different types of eaters and helps you determine which group you fall into. By understanding what kind of eater you are, you can begin to chip away at the barriers you have to listening to your body by following the ten principles of intuitive eating:

Princple 1: Reject the Diet Mentality
Princple 2: Honor Your Hunger
Princple 3: Make Peace with Food
Princple 4: Challenge the Food Police
Princple 5: Feel Your Fullness
Princple 6: Discover the Satisfaction Factor
Princple 7: Cope with Your Emotions Without Using Food
Princple 8: Respect Your Body
Princple 9: Exercise — Feel the Difference
Princple 10: Honor Your Health — Gentle Nutrition

By highlighting the principles here, I am in no way offering a substitute for the book. Each process is supported by examples and methods for internalizing the concept. Intuitive Eating is not a quick-fix, solve-all-your-food problems, self-help book. It offers a common sense approach to changing your relationship with food and your body, allowing you to live a life not dominated by thoughts of food and your body size, but instead filled with the pleasures food and your body can provide you.

If you are looking for yet another way to lose 10, 20, or 50 pounds before your next event, perhaps you are not ready for this book. But if you are ready to start living your life free from self deprivation and self loathing, then this book is for you.

Do you remember a time when you WEREN’T being told to drink more water? Eight 8-ounce glasses a day. It’s been the recommendation for as long as I can remember. And more, if you’re active. And no, coffee, soda, tea and other beverages don’t count (except herbal tea, which sometimes counts and sometimes doesn’t, depending on the source of the recommendation).

Some people struggle with this number, some people (like myself) exceed it, and some people, like my husband, completely ignore it. I have often had debates with my husband over the issue because he can easily get by on one glass of water a day, where I can drink a glass practically in one gulp. He has always maintained that if he needed more he would drink more, sure that he would in fact know if he needed more.

Finally, an article in Nutrition Action magazine (which I highly recommend) has ended the debate — and shut me up. The June 08 issue features a Q & A with a doctor and expert on kidney function to find out what is behind the age old recommendation of 8×8.

Dr. Heinz Valtin was asked by the American Journal of Physiology to look into the recommendation of 8 glasses of water per day. After 10 months of research, he couldn’t find a single paper that offered scientific support for the recommendation.

He then went on to address many of the myths associated with water intake. I think one of the most common myths is that if you feel thirsty, you may already be dehydrated. Yes, it is a sign that you probably should drink some water, but it’s still a long way before you are in danger of real dehydration. He also says that colored urine is not a sign of dehydration either. Yes, if it’s very dark, you probably need to drink a little more, but you are still not in danger, according to Valtin.

We often hear that caffeinated drinks are diuretics and therefore should not count towards water consumption. Valtin indicates that it is only in large doses that caffeine has this effect, and in the amounts that most people consume, caffeinated beverages can indeed be counted towards water intake. Of course, in my opinion, the more water and less soda, coffee, etc. that you drink, the healthier you are likelier to be overall.

Although there is more detailed information in the article, it can easily be summed up by drinking what you feel your body needs which often means drinking at meal time and any time in between when you are thirsty. Pretty simple eh? Sounds good to me.

I did a search on google (of course) and while there is some debate as to how much protein we need, more often than not, my research supports my theory that he needs at least 20 grams more protein daily than what he was aiming for. I’ve often heard that a basic rule of thumb is that you should divide your body weight in half and eat that amount of protein in grams. Tom generally weighs around 150 or 155 so at the very least he should be getting 75 grams a day. But if you account for his height, frame and activity level (as this calculator at HealthCentral.com does) then it should be even higher.

If you’re not sure how much protein you need, the calculator already mentioned is a good resource and seems to be inline with more general guidelines I have seen. So once you know how much protein to aim for, exactly how do you hit that number?

Well, personally, I find it a huge challenge. Even before I gave up meat, it was daunting to eat enough protein without consuming more calories overall than I wanted. The key is to find foods that give you a lot of bang for your buck and add to that foods that sneak protein in where you would least expect it.

There are the obvious choices — meat, poultry, pork and seafood. Since we don’t eat the first three, we eat a lot more seafood. Tonight we had a dinner of canned wild salmon with cream cheese on crackers and some cheese, along with some asparagus. Salmon is an excellent source of protein because it comes without all the unhealthy stuff that a big slab of steak would. Plus, it’s loaded with fatty Omega 3 acids which is good for the heart.

We also eat a lot of eggs, beans, and meat substitutes mostly made from soy, in addition to the occasional smoothie with some protein powder. I have found a lot of delicious ways to prepare tofu and have even converted a few tofu haters! I make a fabulous Tofu Parmesan that my husband favored over any other Parmesan dish even before we gave up meat.

Greek yogurt is another food high in protein. Of course, all dairy has a decent amount but there is something (though I’m not sure what) about Greek yogurt that makes it especially high in protein. It’s also very rich and creamy and makes a good, flavorful substitute for sour cream. I prefer Fage Greek yogurt in 2%. It’s delicious mixed with low sugar apricot preserves.

You can also find higher amounts of protein in certain breads and pasta. I usually look for bread that has 5 grams of protein per slice or more. Barilla has a line of pasta that is made from flour derived from beans like lentils and garbanzos, and has 10 grams of protein per serving! And I think it tastes much better than whole wheat pasta, which is touted for its higher fiber content.

The important thing is to diversify your sources of protein to maximize the nutrients you are getting and to create healthy muscle mass.