Life Lessons From Our Pets

by Ingrid King

I have always believed that animals come into our lives to teach us. First and foremost, they teach us about unconditional love. But they also teach us to stretch and grow, to reach beyond our self-imposed limits, and to expand our consciousness. They take us to places we did not think were possible for us to go. I’ve been fortunate to have a number of these animals in my life.

There was my soul mate kitty, Feebee, who was instrumental in guiding me from an unsatisfactory corporate job to a fulfilling career in the veterinary profession.  For the first time in my life, I discovered what loving what you do for a living feels like.  There was my office cat Virginia, who made my dream of a fulfilling career complete. Whenever I had visualized my perfect job, that dream had always included a cat sleeping in a sunny spot on my desk. One of Virginia’s favorite sleeping places was the spot right next to my computer on my desk at the animal hospital, in front of a sunny window.  There was Buckley, who changed my life in ways I never could have imagined by helping me discover my true passion.  Her lessons were profound enough to inspire an entire book.  And there is Amber, who I share my life with now.  Her gentle, wise presence brings love and affection into my life every day, and she inspired this site, which is dedicated to sharing information about health, happiness and conscious living for pets and their people.

I’ve found that there are three main lessons that all animals teach us, if only we are willing to listen.

They teach us to live in the moment.  Our pets don’t spend time analyzing the past, and they don’t worry about the future.  They are fully focused on whatever it is they are doing in the present moment, whether it’s enjoying a meal, playing with a favorite toy, or napping in the sunny spot on the rug.

They help us to slow down.  We get so caught up in the business of our daily lives, and we rarely take enough time to relax.  Spending time with our pets is the best stress relief I know of.  Research has shown that simply petting a dog or cat can lower your blood pressure.

They help us connect with our spiritual core.  As humans, we have an innate need to get in touch with something greater than ourselves.  For some people, this connection comes through religion, for others, it comes from being in nature.  For me, it has always come from being around animals.

Listen to the animals in your life – you might be surprised at the lessons they have to teach you. What have you learned from your pets?

Ingrid King is the author of Buckley’s Story — Lesson from a Feline Master Teacher.   She is a former veterinary hospital manager turned writer. Her online magazine News for You and Your Pet goes out to subscribers around the world. Her blog, The Conscious Cat, has been called “educational cat nip for the cat lover” and is a comprehensive resource for conscious living, health and happiness for pets and their people.  For more information about Ingrid, please visit www.ingridking.com.

Grieving the Loss of a Pet

Given that Americans spent roughly $45 billion on their pets last year, there is no question that we value our pets as an equal family member. So when when your beloved pet passes on, the grief can be as overwhelming as the loss of a child or best friend. For Courtney, the first days after the death of her Boxer Mandy — who succumbed to cancer — were the hardest, as she found herself “crying harder than I’ve ever cried”. Sharing her grief with her husband Jon helped both of them start the process of healing, and focusing on their one-year-old daughter gave them a much needed distraction. But Courtney also took the time to reflect on the life she shared with Mandy. “Mandy was my first baby. I gave her everything a dog could need or want, and she gave me back more than I could ever deserve. She taught me a lot, and I am grateful for my time with her.”

Courtney’s approach to dealing with Mandy’s death was in line with recommendations put forth by many mental health experts, as well as the the American Kennel Club. Among the suggestions AKC offers is the notion that “grief should be expressed freely” and encourages grieving pet owners to focus on the joy their pet has brought to them. AKC also notes that other family members including children and even pets may react to the loss of their companion and could need extra attention. And while the void left by the death of a pet can be equal to that of another loved one, not everyone can relate to the magnitude of loss which can lead to feelings of shame, undermining the healing process. Peg Beehan, LCSW, who specializes in pet bereavement and offers tips at PetBereavement.com, suggests finding others who understand the special, irreplaceable relationship you had with your pet, and sharing your feelings with them. While many feel the need to grieve in alone, Beehan feels that isolation can “add another layer to the grieving process.”

As with people, a beloved pet can never be replaced. But by being honest with your feelings, reflecting on the the joys your pet brought to your life, and surrounding yourself with a warm, supportive environment, you can begin to move on and heal your wounds.